Relationships can bring joy and excitement in to our lives, and that doesn’t mean they don’t feel challenging at times.
Healthy relationships don’t require perfection, but they do require care, intention, and support. At Schilling Counseling, we provide online couples therapy for individuals and partners across California and Washington, making high-quality relational care accessible no matter where you live. Through secure telehealth sessions, couples can work on strengthening their connection, navigating challenges, and creating meaningful change from the comfort of home.
As a husband-and-wife therapy practice, we bring both professional expertise and a deep respect for the complexity of relationships. Our work is grounded in compassion, curiosity, and evidence-based approaches, allowing us to support couples at many stages of their journey whether you’re dating, engaged, married, or navigating uncertainty in your relationship. Online couples therapy offers flexibility, privacy, and continuity, making it easier to prioritize your relationship even during busy or stressful seasons of life.
What Issues Are Discussed During Couples Therapy?
Every relationship is unique, and couples therapy is designed to meet you exactly where you are. At Schilling Counseling, we work with non-married, pre-marital, and married couples, offering a space to explore both long-standing patterns and current concerns. Topics commonly addressed in couples therapy include:
- Ongoing relationship conflict or emotional distance
- Sexual concerns and intimacy challenges, including sex therapy
- Improving communication and resolving recurring disagreements
- Healing after infidelity or breaches of trust
- The impact of past or present trauma on the relationship
- Infertility and reproductive-related stress
- Parenting challenges and changes in family dynamics
- Discernment counseling for couples contemplating separation or divorce
- Pre-marital therapy and relationship preparation
- Co-dependency and unhealthy relational patterns
- Boundary issues and stress related to extended family or in-laws
- Attachment styles and how they influence connection and closeness
Our approach is inclusive and affirming, welcoming diverse relationship dynamics and belief systems. Faith-based counseling is also available for couples who wish to integrate their spiritual values into the therapeutic process.
What Are the Signs That We Need Couples Therapy?
Many couples wait until conflict feels overwhelming before seeking help, but therapy can be beneficial at any stage. You may consider couples therapy if you notice patterns such as:
- Repeated arguments that never seem to resolve
- Feeling misunderstood, disconnected, or emotionally distant
- Difficulty discussing sensitive topics without escalating conflict
- A breakdown in trust, safety, or intimacy
- Life transitions such as marriage, parenthood, or empty nesting, creating strain
- Avoiding conversations out of fear of conflict or rejection
- Uncertainty about the future of the relationship
Couples therapy is not only for relationships in crisis. Many partners seek therapy proactively to strengthen their bond, deepen understanding, and prevent small issues from becoming larger ones.
What Happens When We Meet with a Couples Therapist?
Couples therapy is a collaborative and intentional process. During online sessions, both partners are invited to share their perspectives in a space that is respectful, balanced, and emotionally safe. Your therapist will help you explore patterns of interaction, identify underlying needs, and understand how individual experiences influence the relationship as a whole.
Rather than assigning blame, therapy focuses on awareness, connection, and growth. Sessions may involve learning new communication strategies, exploring attachment dynamics, processing emotional experiences, and practicing healthier ways of relating. The pace of therapy is guided by your goals, and the process is tailored to support meaningful, long-term change, not just temporary solutions.
Take the First Step Toward Couples Therapy in California and Washington
Your relationship deserves care, attention, and support. If you and your partner are ready to reconnect, heal, or grow together, Schilling Counseling offers online couples therapy to residents of California and Washington. Telehealth sessions make it possible to begin therapy in a way that fits your life and your schedule.
Reach out today to take the first step toward a stronger, more connected relationship. We look forward to walking alongside you as you move forward, together.
We work with all clients and welcome all relationship dynamics. For those who wish for specifically faith based services please see the additional tabs.
Areas of Focus
- Relationship challenges
- Infidelity
- Disharmony
- Communication
- Parenting Differences
- In-law difficulties
- Partner attachment and attachment styles
- Pre-Marital